Your Primary 2 daughter has been scoring 90% for her class tests consistently for these two years.
In the hope that she gets into the top two classes for Primary 3, you bought top school past years exam papers as thick as a ream of paper from a nearby bookshop for her to practice and ace her Math exams and thus, getting her into the top two classes.
“Top classes have the best teachers teaching the students and the best resources available for them to learn,”, you whispered in your head.
What you think:
Practice top schools past years exam papers —–> Ace school exam papers —–> Get into top class —–> Get into top secondary school
With this map in mind, you made her practice two exam papers a week two months before the exams.
More practice —–> more familiarity with exam questions —–> fantastic results!
Your daughter said nothing for the first three weeks, obeying your ‘request’ to practice two exam papers a week.
In the fourth week, she started sobbing! Then, at the top of her voice, with tears rolling down her face, she yelled,
“Why do I have to do ALL these exam papers?!”
You instantly felt your heart pierced by those words of hers. What have you done to your daughter in your (selfish) quest to push her into the top two classes?
She wailed for the next 40 minutes with tears flowing endlessly like a river. You feel guilty for traumatising her with those two intimidating and excruciating exam papers a week.
All for the sake of getting her into the top two classes. After all, top classes have the best teachers.
When she stopped wailing, she stubbornly refused to start on the exam paper. You could see the daggers of hurt in her eyes.
That moment changed her attitude towards Math.
Her neat and tidy handwritten workings evolved into chicken scratch writing.
Worst, 6 looks like 5, 5 looks like 8.
Now, she refuses to practice any exam papers. Day by day, you feel like your daughter is drifting away from you.
What used to be the cheerful happy girl is now frowning with shoulders hunching.
You sat by her side and tried to coach her in the evening after a long day at work, hoping she will understand you want the best for her (and probably lessen your guilt of pushing her too hard).
She folded her arms and refused to do the exam papers. Frowns were ever present on her face.
In your desperate attempt to restore your daughter’s confidence towards Math, you decided to hire a tutor one month before the exams.
It really doesn’t matter anymore if she can’t score an A in Math.
All you want is for her to be happy with what she is learning.
But when the tutor comes only once a week with one month before the exams, it is like trying to find a needle in a haystack.
The exams arrived. She scored 80%. Not a bad score!
However, she missed the cut-off point for the top class by 0.5%.
She’s going to a class where some of her classmates can’t be bothered to study.
Most of us know that they go on to interrupt lessons almost daily by either chatting while the teacher is teaching, or pulling pranks on their fellow classmates…or even BULLYING.
That’s like a slow and painful death to your daughter’s chances of getting a good grade for her subjects.
The thought of your daughter hanging out with them not for one day…but for at least two years sends chills down your spine.
She may even copy their actions, dealing a further blow to her chances of getting into a top class in the future…and maybe even bring that behaviour home daily!
Next year looks like a daily boxing match for you and your daughter.
Getting an A need not be traumatising. In fact, it can easily be a walk in the park.
My name is Brandon. I am a former primary school teacher with over 12 years of teaching experience in Math. I help 7 to 12 year old children score an ‘A’ in math.
These are what some of my students’ mothers have to say.
“Do you know he looks forward to solving maths problems now? He would always finish what you have assigned to him weekly and finished it as soon as you go off. And sit there for two hours at time, now on his own trying to solve the problems his teacher gives to them as homework.”
“He has improved a lot. I think you made a difference in making him the confident him he is now..thanks!!”
“She is feeling so much more confident with her skills and I’m happy to see that. She was really very upset when I signed her up for tutoring..but now she is motivated and trying hard to learn. I appreciate everything you have done.”
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